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Girl Talk: Intimacy with Your Spouse — July 19, 2018

Girl Talk: Intimacy with Your Spouse

As a teenage girl growing up in the 80’s it was pretty awesome.  There were a lot of independent role models.  The icons of the 80s were Madonna, Janet Jackson and Alyssa Milano to name a few.  These women were teaching us that we were strong, independent women who didn’t need men.  That we were in control.  However; those of us who were married were being taught that we were the ones in control and that everything is up to us.  And that means even the “chicka chicka boom boom”.

This philosophy may look good on paper and sound really empowering but this thinking, I believe, created a lot more dysfunctional marriages and broken homes.  Women decided that men were just another fixture only there for our needs.  No mention of their needs.

In the early 90s there was another icon I started listening to; that was Dr. Laura.  She taught me how important it was to want to have intimacy in my marriage.  Our spouses are not there to serve us.  They are there to be loved by us.  To care for them and respect them and appreciate who they are, not to change them.  Once we release the stress of wanting to control who they are and learn to love them, then the relationship can go so much further.

We do not only need to have sex when we feel like it.  What usually makes us not want to feel like it, is us.  We tell ourselves how tired we are, how busy we are, how unattractive we feel.  We fool ourselves into thinking that if we don’t feel like it, we don’t have to worry about our partner.  That is such a selfish thought.  Being close to your spouse in such an intimate manner is one of the blessing we have in life.  If you feel that you are telling yourself that you’re tired, that only you matter, etc., then you need to decide how important a happy marriage is to you.  If your spouse is wanting sex and at that particular time you aren’t feeling like it, then change your thoughts.  Put on music that makes you feel happy and sassy.  Dress up, do your hair and makeup.  If being funny and humorous can get you in the mood do that.  This will dramatically change your marriage.  If you don’t believe me; challenge yourself to try this over the next few months, but you will also have to change your thinking about your whole relationship no just when you are being intimate.

The status of your relationship is all in your mind.  If you want a fabulous relationship all you have to do is think it.

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Live Positive My Friends!!

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The Makings of a Great Relationship. — July 13, 2018

The Makings of a Great Relationship.

Marriage is not always sunshine and roses.  Neither was it meant to be.  Just like in life there is going to be positive and negative.  What makes a good marriage is working through the negative and accepting the it.  Understanding what is making it negative.  What is making it negative or bad is the thinking you have behind it.

I am on my second marriage and I choose to be happy in this marriage.  Not by making up things that don’t exist but by not making him be the person I want him to become.  I married him because I love who he is, why would I want to change that?

Just the other night there was a topic that I enjoy discussing but he doesn’t really want to talk about it.  I could have made a big deal about it and made him feel bad for not feeling my need to express myself.  I could have used this moment to criticize and point out all the things he is doing wrong.  But you know what, there isn’t anything he is doing wrong.

I am letting him be him.  I could choose to look at my marriage and my husband and find everything that I believe to be wrong with him or I could look at my marriage and my husband and see everything that is right about him.

The next time you are feeling like your spouse/partner is not living up to what you thought marriage would be, look at your thoughts you are having and do a love fest on them.  What do I mean by a love fest?  Write down everything you love about your spouse/partner and you will feel a change in how you feel and the direction of your marriage.

Here is my love fest on my husband:

  • I love the way he is concerned about my feelings (even though he has not control) 😊
  • I love the way he laughs
  • I love the effort he puts in with caring for our dogs and making sure they have good nutrition
  • I love his body
  • I love how he smells
  • I love how he takes care of himself and takes pride in the way he looks
  • I love how he takes care of my vehicle for me
  • I love how he makes sure I get to visit my children
  • I love the he snuggles with me
  • I love how he still opens the door for me

I could go on and on, but you understand what a love fest is, and I challenge you to write down 10 things you can love on about your partner.

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Re-Enforcement Meditation — January 31, 2018

Re-Enforcement Meditation

Greetings and Salutations to a wonderful Tribe!  Hope you are all out there creating the life you see for yourself!

We are 5 days in to our 14-day reset cleanse.  If you are doing this with me and are having your ups and downs, I am right there with you.  I still have an occasional struggle and want to throw it all down the drain.  My mind still has the habit thought that I “need” a soda.  But this is completely normal.  This thought loop as been with me for the better part of 30 years.  It will not change over-night and it isn’t easy.  But it is worth it.

Today I started my day out with what I call a re-enforcement meditation.  How is this done?  Before you sit down in your quiet spot shake out the energy you have in your body.  Shake your arms, kick out your legs, shake your feet, wiggle your head.  Now sit down in a posture that is comfortable for you but no slouching.  Really pull your spine up and feel the confidence going through your being.  Clear out your mind.  Now, intentionally place your goal in the center of your mind’s eye.  Really focus on it.  Breathe in deep and exhale out.  Repeat.  Now focus on the reason why you want to reach this goal.  Here is how I did the thought process for my goal of completing this cleanse.

My why – to get healthy.  This thought seems very simplistic and may not be enough to get me through the struggling moments.  So, I then ask myself why do I want to get healthy?  Well there are layers of answers for why I want to get healthy: my business, my husband, my children, my granddaughter, to really experience life for as long as I can, financially.   I can then do another layer of re enforcing my why – what does getting healthy mean for my business?  More confidence in reaching out to people to show them that coaching does work, that I will have more flexibility in my schedule for my family, to be able to really serve the community of the people that struggle like I did.

The steps above can really keep going for each layer of what I listed for my reason to be healthy.  As you go through the steps you will really feel the re commitment right down to the center of your core.  The next time you have the thought error of wanting something that is not in alignment with your goal this re-enforced thought will also be there to keep you on track.

I invite you to check out and follow my podcast, <a href=”https://livepositivelc.podbean.com/mf/play/iuwwdu/2018-01-31-_6.mp3″>Download this episode (right click and save)</a>, to hear me do the breathing technique and to hear about self-care that will help you in reaching your goals.

I would love to hear from you – Live Positive My Friends!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lace Up Your Sneakers and Get Moving — January 23, 2018

Lace Up Your Sneakers and Get Moving

Hello!! Hope you are having a fabulous day.  I know you are setting goals and rocking it.  I know I am.  I am making mistakes too and I am fine with that.  Each mistake I make is an experience for me to learn from.

I believe in having accountability partners to push me out of my comfort zone.  To give me challenges that will stretch me.  My latest push is in the public speaking arena. I did my first interview with a personal trainer from the area.  Her name is Sara Cobb and she was such a great sport.

These interviews that I will continue doing will be focused on Health and Wellness both physical and mental.  With each interview I will then blog about what nugget was brought out that I can then share with you all.  The information you may already know and needed to hear again to reignite your spark.  Or it may be something totally new to you that you can then integrate into your life.

Personal Fitness nugget I received from my interview with Sara Cobb, Personal Trainer with Gold’s Gym.

  • If you are just starting out on your weight loss journey the first step you should do is get yourself to the gym. Even if it is doing small amounts of cardio a day, movement can have a motivating effect on the body, mind and spirit.
  • Take one step at a time. Don’t make changes that can be overwhelming and lead to you quitting.
  • If you have already started and fallen into a rut, where you are self-sabotaging, to get back on track plan a future goal. Find something that inspires you that you have been wanting to do.  If you have something in the future that you can use as your focal point, then your changes of sticking with your plan increases.  For example: If you have a trip you want to take that will require a lot of walking or maybe hiking, keep that trip in mind when you hit the gym.  Future focus will lead you to where you want to go.

Check out the interview here, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8qvuM6l7OqM

I invite you to utilize the effect of an accountability partner in coaching.  Schedule your complimentary session https://calendly.com/livepositivelc/complimentarysession.

Live Positive My Friends!!

My Upcoming Move and the Yin and Yang Emotions — January 22, 2018

My Upcoming Move and the Yin and Yang Emotions

Happy Monday Everyone!

I have been feeling a wide range of emotions lately.  They range from happiness, love, gratitude, sadness, melancholy and anxiety.  Such a wide range of emotions, right?  Why would I choose to experience all these feelings?  It is because life is not about being happy all the time.  There are lower vibrations/feelings that are needed to be experienced to be a complete being.

My life is taking me on a journey back to Arizona.  With this move my life will experience excitement about being back in a warmer climate.  I will have new opportunities to work on my business and really reinvent myself, attract the clients that I know are out there and will benefit from what I have to offer.  But I will also be moving away from my children, my wonderful daughter-in-law to be, and my beautiful granddaughter.  My heart cries every time I think about being separated from them.

I could let these thoughts dictate my life.  Instead I am choosing to be in control of my life and my emotions.  So, I am allowing myself the time to feel the sadness and longing that will come when I move.  Because it demonstrates the love I have for them.  But then I get to move forward in the knowledge that with technology today I get to keep in touch with them.  And they are only an hour away when taking a plane or a day worth of driving by car.  Also, with the coming success of my business I will have the flexibility and financial freedom to be able to get to see them on a regular basis.

I have chosen to feel sadness, melancholy and anxiety, because this makes me a whole person not just someone that wants all the positive without the negative.  I don’t want to only be present in half of my life I want to be a better person my experiencing them all.  If you take one aha from this blog, it is that you get to choose which feelings you want to resist, accept or not have at all.

Live Positive My Friends!!

 

My Special Gift — January 15, 2018

My Special Gift

Happy Monday.  I want to use my blog not to just promote my business, which I think is a pretty awesome service, but also to promote myself.  To get people to know me as a person.  Making friends is just as important to me as helping people. Even if you never use my services I would love to get to know you.

So, to start off every week I am committed to sharing something about myself and who I am.  My blog today is sharing an event that just recently happened.  I was talking to a co-worker last week about this event and it was an aha moment for me.

This has to do with the passing of my mother on Christmas day.  My co-worker had expressed the thought of not seeing Christmas in a bad light because that was the day my mother passed.  My response to her encouraging words was that I do not look at it as a negative or sad event.  I am truly blessed to have been with my mom on Christmas day and my sister when my mother passed on.

This to me is truly a special moment that I will always get to treasure.  She knows how special she is to me and that I loved her dearly.  Christmas to me will always be a gift that was given to me that I will never forget.

I hope you all enjoyed this blog, now go out and Live Positive.