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Girl Talk: Intimacy with Your Spouse — July 19, 2018

Girl Talk: Intimacy with Your Spouse

As a teenage girl growing up in the 80’s it was pretty awesome.  There were a lot of independent role models.  The icons of the 80s were Madonna, Janet Jackson and Alyssa Milano to name a few.  These women were teaching us that we were strong, independent women who didn’t need men.  That we were in control.  However; those of us who were married were being taught that we were the ones in control and that everything is up to us.  And that means even the “chicka chicka boom boom”.

This philosophy may look good on paper and sound really empowering but this thinking, I believe, created a lot more dysfunctional marriages and broken homes.  Women decided that men were just another fixture only there for our needs.  No mention of their needs.

In the early 90s there was another icon I started listening to; that was Dr. Laura.  She taught me how important it was to want to have intimacy in my marriage.  Our spouses are not there to serve us.  They are there to be loved by us.  To care for them and respect them and appreciate who they are, not to change them.  Once we release the stress of wanting to control who they are and learn to love them, then the relationship can go so much further.

We do not only need to have sex when we feel like it.  What usually makes us not want to feel like it, is us.  We tell ourselves how tired we are, how busy we are, how unattractive we feel.  We fool ourselves into thinking that if we don’t feel like it, we don’t have to worry about our partner.  That is such a selfish thought.  Being close to your spouse in such an intimate manner is one of the blessing we have in life.  If you feel that you are telling yourself that you’re tired, that only you matter, etc., then you need to decide how important a happy marriage is to you.  If your spouse is wanting sex and at that particular time you aren’t feeling like it, then change your thoughts.  Put on music that makes you feel happy and sassy.  Dress up, do your hair and makeup.  If being funny and humorous can get you in the mood do that.  This will dramatically change your marriage.  If you don’t believe me; challenge yourself to try this over the next few months, but you will also have to change your thinking about your whole relationship no just when you are being intimate.

The status of your relationship is all in your mind.  If you want a fabulous relationship all you have to do is think it.

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My Upcoming Move and the Yin and Yang Emotions — January 22, 2018

My Upcoming Move and the Yin and Yang Emotions

Happy Monday Everyone!

I have been feeling a wide range of emotions lately.  They range from happiness, love, gratitude, sadness, melancholy and anxiety.  Such a wide range of emotions, right?  Why would I choose to experience all these feelings?  It is because life is not about being happy all the time.  There are lower vibrations/feelings that are needed to be experienced to be a complete being.

My life is taking me on a journey back to Arizona.  With this move my life will experience excitement about being back in a warmer climate.  I will have new opportunities to work on my business and really reinvent myself, attract the clients that I know are out there and will benefit from what I have to offer.  But I will also be moving away from my children, my wonderful daughter-in-law to be, and my beautiful granddaughter.  My heart cries every time I think about being separated from them.

I could let these thoughts dictate my life.  Instead I am choosing to be in control of my life and my emotions.  So, I am allowing myself the time to feel the sadness and longing that will come when I move.  Because it demonstrates the love I have for them.  But then I get to move forward in the knowledge that with technology today I get to keep in touch with them.  And they are only an hour away when taking a plane or a day worth of driving by car.  Also, with the coming success of my business I will have the flexibility and financial freedom to be able to get to see them on a regular basis.

I have chosen to feel sadness, melancholy and anxiety, because this makes me a whole person not just someone that wants all the positive without the negative.  I don’t want to only be present in half of my life I want to be a better person my experiencing them all.  If you take one aha from this blog, it is that you get to choose which feelings you want to resist, accept or not have at all.

Live Positive My Friends!!

 

The Secret to Stress — January 19, 2018

The Secret to Stress

I want to talk to you about stress.  The definition of stress from dictionary.com is “a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or very demanding circumstances.” Or a humorous one that I enjoy is “The confusion created when one’s mind overrides the body’s basic desire to choke the living daylights out of somebody who desperately needs it”.

When we look at the definition from dictionary.com is states the mental or emotional strain resulting from an adverse circumstance.  Breaking down that statement I would have to disagree with this definition.  The reason for my difference of opinion is because circumstances are neutral.  This definition makes it sound like the stress is happening to us, not that we are creating it.

I have a story to share to demonstrate what I mean.  I was talking to someone the other day and they were feeling a little stressed and short on time.  They were in the middle of a move and had a long list of things to still get done.  They shared with me that they didn’t know if they would get it all done in time.  At this point I took a moment to have them step back and see that thought they just had.  “I don’t know if I will be able to get it all done”.  This thought is what was creating the stress, the move was just a set of tasks still needing to be completed.  I explained that what they needed to do is get clear on what still needs to be done and create a to do list.  To take this list a step further they could put time limits on each task.  Once you have completed this step all the drama and stress will go away, and you will have motivation and empowerment in its place.  Anyone that is feeling stress can step back and look at the thoughts they are generating and breakdown the necessary tasks or steps that need to be accomplished to alleviate their stress.

Another part of this is what are we making it mean?  When we are feeling stress over a job for example, the stress can truly be coming from a place of fear.  We may be setting out to impress our boss, client or colleagues.  That may be where our stress is being generated from, we don’t want to let anyone down, or we want to control how others see us.  Here is the most important advice I can give you.  We cannot control what others think of us and it is none of our business what they are thinking.

As a health coach I bring this topic up because stress can wreak havoc on our mental state, health and wellness state and lead us binge eating.  If this sounds like you I invite you to click this link, https://calendly.com/livepositivelc/30min, to schedule your complimentary mini session to discover the secrets to your stress.

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Feel, Live Authentically — January 8, 2018

Feel, Live Authentically

I have lived most of my life thinking feelings just happened.  That I had no control over them.  And as these feelings “happened” to me I didn’t know how to deal with them, so I avoided or resisted them.  This was the path that took me to being over weight and hating the body that I had created.

We want to be able to only experience the good feelings and forget the negative; such as, sadness, boredom, loneliness, anxiety and anger to name a few.  These feelings can be accepted and processed.  Feelings come in both positive and negative.  You must have negative feelings/events in life to appreciate the positive feelings/events in life.  Brooke Castillo, Master Life Coach, taught me that resisting or avoiding your feelings is not the way to live an authentic life.  Feel your feelings and understand that feelings cannot hurt you.  Understand what you are feeling, describe what you are feeling and give space to it.  By doing this you are taking back the control of your life.

I would like to invite you to schedule a mini coaching session to learn how you can live your life to the fullest and take back the control over your emotions.  Click the following link, https://calendly.com/livepositivelc/30min/01-08-2018.

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