This episode will cover how you can have an emotion and different thoughts behind that one emotion. You get to decide if the thought that is generating your emotion serves you in your purpose for life or is it more self-centered. If you want to set up a coaching session please email me at email@example.com. Also any comments or questions can be directed to that email. Sending love.
First and foremost I want to apologize for the audio it is a little rough but I wanted to get this out to you. It didn’t work out the way I wanted it to because it is later than I wanted to upload it. Next time I am on vacation I will plan ahead. As for the podcast I talk about gratitude and what I am grateful for in my life. Please join me in keeping a gratitude journal and truly being grateful in our lives. If you have any questions or comments please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or comment here. Share with your friends and family. Sending out love.
I am offering tools and techniques of how to think through your anxiety. I hope this brings value to you or someone you may know that suffers with anxiety.
This is episode 2 where I continue on from episode 1 and how thoughts create feelings, feeling create action and action creates results. So join me to explore how you can create the life that you want by changing your thinking today. If you would like to ask a question please email me at email@example.com. If you received value from this episode and would like to explore coaching please contact me at the same email address.
All of my life I have been known as slightly clumsy. Running into objects and tripping over my own feet. My two sons have their favorite memory of me running in a race against them down a small hill. As we are all running towards the car, I am going full speed, because I can’t let me two boys beat me in a race, I feel my legs and my upper body fall out of alignment. I am not really sure if my legs were going too fast or too slow, I just know it all seemed to happen in slow motion. I started to fall forward and there was no stopping it. It seemed like I rolled a couple of times and came to a complete stop in front of my boys hysterically laughing. Ah good memories.
But now back to the rest of the story. I recently scratched the top of my left foot and it left a pretty good sore. It was in an area that my shoes, sandals and flip flops were always irritating it. I would put a band-aid with a leading antibiotic gel on in to try and keep it from bleeding in my sock but at the end of the day the sore was still moist and tender. It didn’t do any good for the healing of my scratch.
I purchased a small bottle of tea tree oil and thought I would give that a try. I have read up on the uses of tea tree oil and there are several uses from acne, athletes foot, cold sores, etc. I also know first hand of the amazing job it does on the itch of the mosquito bite. My apology for digression, I put this essential oil on my foot for a few days. The improvement I was seeing was amazing. The sore itself has almost healed and I don’t have to worry about which shoes to wear anymore.
This is a product I will definitely keep on hand in my first aid bag, great to take along on camping trips, fishing trips and hiking. If you would like to learn where to purchase the oil I have please feel free to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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Looking at the news and the climate around you, you may think we don’t have much good or love in the atmosphere. I have an opportunity to be able to share and spread love. If nothing else please share.
“I am attempting to raise money for my son, daughter-in-law and their 1 year old daughter. They are a young family starting out trying to improve their selves. In the mist of attempting to do this they have had their car break down and need to get that fixed. Fortunately, their dad has been able to let them use his truck but the gas for the truck is expensive and he only works part-time.
In the meantime the daughter-in-law has the opportunity to start a job this Friday but needs to be able to put the money down for registration and a week in advance.
They are also behind in their car payments. They are trying to do the best they can and as a parent I am trying to help as much as I can. As of right now to fix the car it would be $500, the payments are $640.00 ($320.00) monthly, and $245.00 to get their daughter in daycare and paid up for a week.
They are both working hard to get their diplomas and my son once has completed his high school diploma he plans to join the military. I would like to help them achieve their goals.
If I could do this myself I would, but I would be forever grateful for any help that can be given. Here is the link if you are able to spare….
Let’s talk about relationships. The first thing that probably comes to mind when someone says “relationship” is probably your romantic relationship. But there are so many other relationships in our lives. We have brothers, sisters, parents, friends and even co-workers that you have relationships with.
Relationship can tend to be frustrating. You may get frustrated when the people you interact with each and every day don’t do what you think is best. It could be a co-worker that you are explaining something to and after you leave they find a different way to it that suits them, but you don’t see it the way they do. Or your kids that you give advice to and they refuse to listen or do the opposite you say. Or a communication issue with your parents. All of these scenarios can leave you wanting to scream or pull your hair out. Can I get an Amen? I have two boys enough said.
But what I am going to share with you today is going to save your sanity. Drop all expectations. It’s that simple. It’s when you expect someone to do what you say or that you want to control the situation that you tend to feel frustrated. Everyone on this earth has the right to be who they want to be and do what they want to do. You get to choose how you want to feel about that person. Let me give you some examples.
If you have a family member or a friend that you are constantly inviting to gatherings and they are always busy doing something else, you may tend to start to think this person doesn’t care. You start feeling angry, sad, frustrated or disappointed. These are all normal responses because we expect that if you invite someone to an event that they would want to come. When they don’t you start to tell yourself stories, in your mind. These stories you tell your self are what creates the feelings you are having. The best way to combat these feelings is to let the person be who they want to be. You cannot change them. You can always extend the invitation but have no expectations tied to their response. This will not only create a more peaceful mind for you but more peace in your relationship. That is what makes this so great and awesome. You get to decide how you want to feel.
Another example: If your child, son or daughter, ends up in prison or dealing with a drug addiction, as a parent the first thing you want to do is start evaluating what you did wrong. But who says you did anything wrong? That is when you get to let them make their own choices and face their own consequences. You can feel empathy for them and want to help them empower themselves, but never take on someone else’s actions as your responsibility. This does not serve you. You can even set time aside to grieve about what could have been; however, do not choose this spot as your resting place. There is still more life for them to live and for you to live. No one knows the future and you will never know why they are living the path they are living. Only in the future is their purpose revealed.
In summary, you get to choose how you get to feel about any relationship in your life. If you choose to love someone you get to love them, unconditionally. They cannot stop you from loving or feeling love for them. And why would you want to choose any other emotion?
If you have a relationship that you want to work through I invite you to schedule a complimentary session we me, https://calendly.com/livepositivelc/relationship-coaching,
Live Positive My Friends!!
As a teenage girl growing up in the 80’s it was pretty awesome. There were a lot of independent role models. The icons of the 80s were Madonna, Janet Jackson and Alyssa Milano to name a few. These women were teaching us that we were strong, independent women who didn’t need men. That we were in control. However; those of us who were married were being taught that we were the ones in control and that everything is up to us. And that means even the “chicka chicka boom boom”.
This philosophy may look good on paper and sound really empowering but this thinking, I believe, created a lot more dysfunctional marriages and broken homes. Women decided that men were just another fixture only there for our needs. No mention of their needs.
In the early 90s there was another icon I started listening to; that was Dr. Laura. She taught me how important it was to want to have intimacy in my marriage. Our spouses are not there to serve us. They are there to be loved by us. To care for them and respect them and appreciate who they are, not to change them. Once we release the stress of wanting to control who they are and learn to love them, then the relationship can go so much further.
We do not only need to have sex when we feel like it. What usually makes us not want to feel like it, is us. We tell ourselves how tired we are, how busy we are, how unattractive we feel. We fool ourselves into thinking that if we don’t feel like it, we don’t have to worry about our partner. That is such a selfish thought. Being close to your spouse in such an intimate manner is one of the blessing we have in life. If you feel that you are telling yourself that you’re tired, that only you matter, etc., then you need to decide how important a happy marriage is to you. If your spouse is wanting sex and at that particular time you aren’t feeling like it, then change your thoughts. Put on music that makes you feel happy and sassy. Dress up, do your hair and makeup. If being funny and humorous can get you in the mood do that. This will dramatically change your marriage. If you don’t believe me; challenge yourself to try this over the next few months, but you will also have to change your thinking about your whole relationship no just when you are being intimate.
The status of your relationship is all in your mind. If you want a fabulous relationship all you have to do is think it.
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Live Positive My Friends!!
Marriage is not always sunshine and roses. Neither was it meant to be. Just like in life there is going to be positive and negative. What makes a good marriage is working through the negative and accepting the it. Understanding what is making it negative. What is making it negative or bad is the thinking you have behind it.
I am on my second marriage and I choose to be happy in this marriage. Not by making up things that don’t exist but by not making him be the person I want him to become. I married him because I love who he is, why would I want to change that?
Just the other night there was a topic that I enjoy discussing but he doesn’t really want to talk about it. I could have made a big deal about it and made him feel bad for not feeling my need to express myself. I could have used this moment to criticize and point out all the things he is doing wrong. But you know what, there isn’t anything he is doing wrong.
I am letting him be him. I could choose to look at my marriage and my husband and find everything that I believe to be wrong with him or I could look at my marriage and my husband and see everything that is right about him.
The next time you are feeling like your spouse/partner is not living up to what you thought marriage would be, look at your thoughts you are having and do a love fest on them. What do I mean by a love fest? Write down everything you love about your spouse/partner and you will feel a change in how you feel and the direction of your marriage.
Here is my love fest on my husband:
- I love the way he is concerned about my feelings (even though he has not control) 😊
- I love the way he laughs
- I love the effort he puts in with caring for our dogs and making sure they have good nutrition
- I love his body
- I love how he smells
- I love how he takes care of himself and takes pride in the way he looks
- I love how he takes care of my vehicle for me
- I love how he makes sure I get to visit my children
- I love the he snuggles with me
- I love how he still opens the door for me
I could go on and on, but you understand what a love fest is, and I challenge you to write down 10 things you can love on about your partner.
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Live Positive My Friends!