I want to talk to you about stress. The definition of stress from dictionary.com is “a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or very demanding circumstances.” Or a humorous one that I enjoy is “The confusion created when one’s mind overrides the body’s basic desire to choke the living daylights out of somebody who desperately needs it”.
When we look at the definition from dictionary.com is states the mental or emotional strain resulting from an adverse circumstance. Breaking down that statement I would have to disagree with this definition. The reason for my difference of opinion is because circumstances are neutral. This definition makes it sound like the stress is happening to us, not that we are creating it.
I have a story to share to demonstrate what I mean. I was talking to someone the other day and they were feeling a little stressed and short on time. They were in the middle of a move and had a long list of things to still get done. They shared with me that they didn’t know if they would get it all done in time. At this point I took a moment to have them step back and see that thought they just had. “I don’t know if I will be able to get it all done”. This thought is what was creating the stress, the move was just a set of tasks still needing to be completed. I explained that what they needed to do is get clear on what still needs to be done and create a to do list. To take this list a step further they could put time limits on each task. Once you have completed this step all the drama and stress will go away, and you will have motivation and empowerment in its place. Anyone that is feeling stress can step back and look at the thoughts they are generating and breakdown the necessary tasks or steps that need to be accomplished to alleviate their stress.
Another part of this is what are we making it mean? When we are feeling stress over a job for example, the stress can truly be coming from a place of fear. We may be setting out to impress our boss, client or colleagues. That may be where our stress is being generated from, we don’t want to let anyone down, or we want to control how others see us. Here is the most important advice I can give you. We cannot control what others think of us and it is none of our business what they are thinking.
As a health coach I bring this topic up because stress can wreak havoc on our mental state, health and wellness state and lead us binge eating. If this sounds like you I invite you to click this link, https://calendly.com/livepositivelc/30min, to schedule your complimentary mini session to discover the secrets to your stress.
Live Positive My Friends!