“Do not make it someone else’s responsibility to make you happy.” – Joanne Williams
The decision to love someone or not to love someone is in the control of the individual person. I do not believe in the theory of falling in and out of love. You can choose to love someone even if they do not love you back. This is all in your power.
I hear a lot of couples say they love their partner because they make them happy. This on the surface seems like a loving statement. But when you look at it on a deeper level you are giving your power to someone else. This is saying your happiness depends on someone else. This is a victim mentality.
Why do I say that? Because being happy is your responsibility. You should not delegate that responsibility to someone else; whether it is your significant other, boss, or family relation. You are the one in control of who you are. Your partner’s actions cannot make you mad. The thoughts you are having is creating you to be mad. Your thought about what it is they did or didn’t do, is what is creating your feelings. If they do something special for you, you create the thought that makes you happy, not their action.
Learning how to accept a person for who they are and let them be who they are without wanting to change them is your freedom. This does not mean that you cannot have a conversation about your boundaries or what you would like. But you shouldn’t make it mean something negative if they do not do what you want. You cannot control others.
There is a difference between setting boundaries and verbalizing what you would appreciate your partner to do. Unfortunately, this is a whole other blog. Just remember you have the power to be happy in any relationship, any job, and in any situation. Take full responsibility for your life.
Live Positive My Friends.
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