Waking up this morning I feel the tightness in my chest and the swirling in my stomach. As I clear the sleep out of my eyes I think “anxiety, there you are”. I lay my head back on the pillow and take in a couple of deep breaths.
I have dealt with anxiety through my life, but it has not always been this simple to accept it. I used to really resist it. I would think there was something wrong with me. I would start doubting myself that I could get through it. I just wanted to give up.
Thanks to introduction to CBT and reading and learning from Brooke Castillo, Master Coach, I have been able to recognize anxiety, evaluate and defuse the situation. To be able to enjoy my life at a level I haven’t been able to before.
The first step is being able to accept the anxiety and breathe into it. When you battle with anxiety, anxiety will win. Bring mindfulness to your body and name the feeling you are sensing. When you bring awareness to the anxiety living in your mind, it is like you are shining a flashlight into a dark corner of a room you are afraid to go into.
The next step is watch your thoughts. What is happening in your mind? This will give you the reason you are feeling the anxiety. This way you get to decide if the thoughts you are having are true or needless worry. This is where the diffusing the situation takes place. You get to decide what the thoughts mean to you. You have all the control.
After you have diffused the situation decide how you are going to react. This is where you are in the driver’s seat and you get to push the gas petal and move forward or stay there stuck spinning your wheels.
I hope this post helps at least one person that lives with anxiety and knows they are still able to be in control of their own life and decisions.